Tuesday, January 11, 2005

Board Schizophrenia

As I sink further into Board withdrawals, I start seeing things all over that can be applied to the Board. The most interesting (and by far most intellectual) piece I have come across is in today’s online version of The New York Times. It discusses the ability of human beings to carry on multiple lives or deep secrets. Towards the end the author delves into topics such as people leading secret homosexual lifestyles outside of their marriages, but for the most part the article is a fascinating study of one of the fun aspects of writing for the 100 Hour Board—anonymity. I cite a few portions of the article:

But psychologists say that most normal adults are well equipped to start a secret life, if not to sustain it. The ability to hold a secret is fundamental to healthy social development, they say, and the desire to sample other identities - to reinvent oneself, to pretend - can last well into adulthood. And in recent years researchers have found that some of the same psychological skills that help many people avoid mental distress can also put them at heightened risk for prolonging covert activities.

"In a very deep sense, you don't have a self unless you have a secret, and we all have moments throughout our lives when we feel we're losing ourselves in our social group, or work or marriage, and it feels good to grab for a secret, or some subterfuge, to reassert our identity as somebody apart," said Dr. Daniel M. Wegner, a professor of psychology at Harvard. He added, "And we are now learning that some people are better at doing this than others."

Although the best-known covert lives are the most spectacular - the architect Louis Kahn had three lives; Charles Lindbergh reportedly had two - these are exaggerated examples of a far more common and various behavior, psychologists say. Some people gamble on the sly, or sample drugs. Others try music lessons. Still others join a religious group. [If you’re crazy enough, you join the Board and set up multiple aliases.] They keep mum for different reasons.

Psychologists have long considered the ability to keep secrets as central to healthy development. Children as young as 6 or 7 learn to stay quiet about their mother's birthday present. In adolescence and adulthood, a fluency with small social lies is associated with good mental health. And researchers have confirmed that secrecy can enhance attraction, or as Oscar Wilde put it, "The commonest thing is delightful if only one hides it."

The urge to act out an entirely different persona is widely shared across cultures as well, social scientists say, and may be motivated by curiosity, mischief or earnest soul-searching. Certainly, it is a familiar tug in the breast of almost anyone who has stepped out of his or her daily life for a time, whether for vacation, for business or to live in another country.

"It used to be you'd go away for the summer and be someone else, go away to camp and be someone else, or maybe to Europe and be someone else" in a spirit of healthy experimentation, said Dr. Sherry Turkle, a sociologist at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology. Now, she said, people regularly assume several aliases on the Internet, without ever leaving their armchair: the clerk next door might sign on as bill@aol.com but also cruise chat rooms as Armaniguy, Cool Breeze and Thunderboy.

Most recently, Dr. Turkle has studied the use of online interactive games like Sims Online, where people set up families and communities. She has conducted detailed interviews with some 200 regular or occasional players, and says many people use the games as a way to set up families they wish they had, or at least play out alternative versions of their own lives.

One 16-year-old girl who lives with an abusive father has simulated her relationship to him in Sims Online by changing herself, variously, into a 16-year-old boy, a bigger, stronger girl and a more assertive personality, among other identities. It was as a more forceful daughter, Dr. Turkle said, that the girl discovered she could forgive her father, if not change him.

"I think what people are doing on the Internet now," she said, "has deep psychological meaning in terms of how they're using identities to express problems and potentially solve them in what is a relatively consequence-free zone." [If the internet has deep psychological meaning, then all of the writers for the Board are stark raving mad at this point.]


3 Comments:

At 8:21 PM, Blogger Etelmik said...

Dude! I never ever got what you meant when you told me I had "board schizophrenia." Now I have to go look that up again...

It seems we are both defined by who we are inherently and who we are in relation to others. If we are starving for one aspect from being drowned in the other, we rush after the missing one and go on a hunt. 'Tis such a good article. You didn't tell us any of your secrets though....

 
At 5:26 PM, Blogger Katya said...

I was thinking the other day that several writers seem to have an even-tempered alias and a cranky alias. I'll let you think of your own examples, since I obviously can't post any correlations here. Anyway, they can vent their rage or be a bit crabby under the cranky alias, and then their other alias stays nice and well-liked. It's fairly effective, actually. It's also amusing when readers write in to say they hate one alias and really like the other, which has happened a few times in recent memory.

I also think it's interesting to compare the real life personalities of people with their Board personalities. There were a couple of people I thought I'd get along with really well, based on their Board personalities, but we never clicked in RL. With other people, knowing them through the Board made it much easer to be friends in RL. Knowing Ambrosia before I knew [Angela] meant that I could see past her shyness, since she's much more outgoing and strong in her opinions online than in RL.

I had your and Kassidy's personalities pegged completely wrong, based on your blogs. I pegged her as much more outgoing, and I thought you'd be more quiet and standoffish (not in a bad way--I just can't quite think of the right word). Anyway, it's interesting to compare how our real personalities compare with our pseudo-personalities, whether favorably or not. I'm afraid I'm much more ditzy in RL. *sigh*

 
At 2:31 PM, Blogger Benvolio said...

On the contrary, dear Katya, we enjoy you immensely in real life. Although I'm not sure what to think about your supposition that I am stand-offish. What's that supposed to mean, anyway? Huh?

 

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